You know...this is one thing I have always wanted to write about.
Having been the "Agony Aunt" to a lot of my friends suffering from the symptoms of the so called "love"syndrome,I started out on a quest to discover what this word really is...and guess what I found: IT Is OVERRATED!!
OK so people talk about being blind in love.The tingly feeling you get when your special 'one' is around,those butterflies in the stomach,sweet pangs in your body,sleepless nights,never-ending fantasies,ubiquitous silence in an attempt to hear each other's heartbeats....
(and all of that crazy stuff each one of you must have experienced atleast once..)
But where does it all begin? Is it solely your heart's intent or Is it actuallly your brain playing cards?
In order to find out lets do a small activity...
Take a deep breath and close your eyes.Now try to picture a special person.
(Btw there are no restrictions as to who that person is...your 'love'...your 'crush'..an 'eyecandy' or even a person from a different gender!!!! :p)
Jokes apart...
So while you are doing this,and before you enter your phantasy world again,Take a PAUSE..
Take 5 mins to think why did you like that person in the first place?
Her eyes,His body,Her pretty face,His chocolaty looks,Her Tomboyish attitude,His endearing smile....
Whatever the reason is,make a note of it in your head and open your eyes now...
I am sure all of you must have had certain very profound reasons for your choice ;)
Now think for a while...but wait
CAUTION: This task is only for people who are still in love or have a recently found interest...For those who have already tasted the harsh reality...you could probably sit back and pass a grin to all your friends still trapped..
Yeah so I was saying.....THINK(in block letters)
Think..Isn't that person the best?? The best of all the people you know....The best of everyone within your reach...or for that matter the best of all that was fathomable???
And when I say BEST,the only perspective that matters is...your OWN.
He doesnot necessarily be the most popular guy in college and she doesnot need to be the prettiest girl alive. If they fit into YOUR definition of BEST..that is what they are.. IMMACULATE.
Having done that,ask yourself a simple question..
"Why did you go for the best option available??" why not the second best?
CAUTION: Read the above sentence again....It is a million fathoms deeper than it actually appears to be!!
So you will only choose a thing if you donot have a better option. Trust me! This might sound rude but nobody goes for the second best option.This is EXACTLY where the brain plays its part. I remember reading a quote on someone's tee which went something like: "The brain is the most active organ of the Human Body.It works for 24 hours a day and remains conscious every time. From pumping blood to the moment we fall in love."
So the FACT that I am trying to convey is:"You only like something until it is THE best" or precisely the BEST thing available. (Best of course in your perception.)
Then what would happen if you find a better option?
and what if the better option comes with even better add-on s?
and what if the better option becomes available toooo!!
I'll tell you what.. YOU'LL SWITCH
Yes,you might give me a thousand reasons to justify how your love is pristine..(I am actually expecting a lot of contentious arguments in the comment box below.. ;)) But regardless of whatever you have to tell me,I'll tell you just one thing...The word 'forever' is a misnomer in terms of love.It is actually read as "forever..until you find better" ;)
So am I trying to promote polygamy here?Or am I a disbeliever? Well none of them actually.
On the contrary you'll not find a girl with a deeper faith in this concept..
All I am trying to say is: Falling for someone is not solely a heart's venture...It is rather an interplay between your brain and heart. And this is what we fail to understand most of the times.We blame the heart to be an emotional fool and ourselves get trapped.
Thus while having an eye-candy or a crush is undoubtedly healthy but getting senti and losing it all..is not only injurious..it is Fatal!
So you need to be really careful..
And to all the members of the PHA Association, here's a word from your agony aunt:
While she makes her way to your heart..make sure you don't have to struggle later,in finding the way out!!.(wink)
Ps: PHA stands for Pite Hue Aashiq.
