Just regular rantings!! Try getting a hang of the sarcasm in the tone :)

I remember being asked in my job interview: "When are you planning to leave our company?" (It seems they were pretty much impressed by my 'Tell us something about yourself' answer). As spontaneous as I was in convincing them how this company was going to be my holy abode..at the back of my mind, I was duly convinced that I would not be joining it in the first place! Call it arrogance but I had a certain kind of unshakable belief in my intentions... But as Sarah Kay says:
"This life will hit you hard in the face,wait for you to get back up just so it can kick you in the stomach. But getting the wind knocked out of you is the only way to remind your lungs how much they love the taste of air!"
There is something very intoxicating about this woman's poetry. You'll experience everything that she has written sooner or later in your life...
Anyway back to my story: So life did hit hard!!! Harder than the force I could Garner to fight it back. And that was when I realized that "acceptance" works best when you have lost control of the situation. But mind you... ACCEPTANCE and not SUCCUMBENCE(if that's even a word.. anyway you get what I mean)

Acceptance is important because it's crucial to the societal fabric.You might hate it when your roommate gets homesick and you have to act all 'mommy-like' to make her sleep peacefully...You might hate it when even the business people refrain from speaking in the business language and go all chatty in their local lingo...you might hate it when you have to bear with a nonsensical incident that your colleague iterates at full length (completely oblivious to your disinterest in the topic which by the way was clearly visible on your face!!),you might hate it when the guy on the next seat won't stop boasting about his excellent track record while the 'English language sulks in silence!'... You might absolutely hate it when you finally meet someone from your own land and the guy doesn't stop flirting!!! And that is not IT! You really don't want me to even get started on the food and conservatism in the region.

You might not like any of these and yet you don't "react"!  You put up a nice smiley face and show up for the circus every day :)

As they say:
"Don't get upset with people or situations,both are powerless without your reaction"

So you guys continue doing whatever you are...while I sit here with my magic wand, quietly sucking the potency out of these earthly situations..

                                   Adios!

I was just a flash in the pan...... Read twice before you reach a conclusion ;)

I was just a flash in the pan
And I refuse to believe that

I can bring home the bacon again

You may call me a drunk dame,but
"Winners fail until they succeed"
is a myth,and
I am a failure

And the realization has only intensified
Once upon a time
I was a strong girl
But this is no longer true
Hope is an obsolete notion

Desolation awaits me
I do not concede that

I can fathom whatever I wish to

In the future,
Melancholia would be the maxim for me
No longer can it be said that

I can create my own sunshine

It will be evident that
I am a lackadaisical  and my existence is an otiose undertaking
It is foolish to presume that

I AM A FOUNTAIN OF OPPORTUNITIES!!!

And all this would have been a reality but I opted to read it bottom up....

I wish....

I wish...
Whatever I touched
I could call it mine...

I wish...
I could travel back in time....

I wish...
I could live those years again...
I wish...
A few more memories I could gain

I wish...
I could take the road not taken..
A few suppressed dreams I could awaken..

I wish...
I wish we could trap moments and make them last forever....

I wish I could steal you from the world...

To make you my only endeavour...

I wish...
I could catch a glimpse of future
And see what it holds...

What answers do I get to those questions...

How the mystery unfolds.......

LOVE is in the brain!!!

You know...this is one thing I have always wanted to write about.
Having been the "Agony Aunt" to a lot of my friends suffering from the symptoms of the so called "love"syndrome,I started out on a quest to discover what this word really is...and guess what I found: IT Is OVERRATED!!

OK so people talk about being blind in love.The tingly feeling you get when your special 'one' is around,those butterflies in the stomach,sweet pangs in your body,sleepless nights,never-ending fantasies,ubiquitous silence in an attempt to hear each other's heartbeats....

(and all of that crazy stuff each one of you must have experienced atleast once..)

But where does it all begin? Is it solely your heart's intent or Is it actuallly your brain playing cards?  
In order to find out lets do a small activity...

Take a deep breath and close your eyes.Now try to picture a special person.
(Btw there are no restrictions as to who that person is...your 'love'...your 'crush'..an 'eyecandy' or even a person from a different gender!!!! :p)
Jokes apart...  
So while you are doing this,and before you enter your phantasy world again,Take a PAUSE..

Take 5 mins to think why did you like that person in the first place?

Her eyes,His body,Her pretty face,His chocolaty looks,Her Tomboyish attitude,His endearing smile....
Whatever the reason is,make a note of it in your head and open your eyes now...
I am sure all of you must have had certain very profound reasons for your choice ;)

Now think for a while...but wait
CAUTION: This task is only for people who are still in love or have a recently found interest...For those who have already tasted the harsh reality...you could probably sit back and pass a grin to all  your friends still trapped..

Yeah so I was saying.....THINK(in block letters)

Think..Isn't that person the best?? The best of all the people you know....The best of everyone within your reach...or for that matter the best of all that was fathomable???

And when I say BEST,the only perspective that matters is...your OWN.
He doesnot necessarily be the most popular guy in college and she doesnot need to be the prettiest girl alive. If they fit into YOUR definition of BEST..that is what they are.. IMMACULATE.

Having done that,ask yourself a simple question..
"Why did you go for the best option available??"  why not the second best?

CAUTION: Read the above sentence again....It is a million fathoms deeper than it actually appears to be!!

So you will only choose a thing if you donot have a better option.  Trust me! This might sound rude but nobody goes for the second best option.This is EXACTLY where the brain plays its part. I remember reading a quote on someone's tee which went something like: "The brain is the most active organ of the Human Body.It works for 24 hours a day and remains conscious every time. From pumping blood to the moment we fall in love."

So the FACT that I am trying to convey is:"You only like something until it is THE best" or precisely the BEST thing available. (Best of course in your perception.)

Then what would happen if you find a better option?
and what if the better option comes with even better add-on s?
and what if the better option becomes available toooo!!

I'll tell you what..  YOU'LL SWITCH
Yes,you might give me a thousand reasons to justify how your love is pristine..(I am actually expecting a lot of contentious arguments in the comment box below.. ;)) But regardless of whatever you have to tell me,I'll tell you just one thing...The word 'forever' is a misnomer in terms of love.It is actually read as "forever..until you find better" ;)

So am I trying to promote polygamy here?Or am I a disbeliever? Well none of them actually.
On the contrary you'll not find a girl with a deeper faith in this concept..

All I am trying to say is: Falling for someone is not solely a heart's venture...It is rather an interplay between your brain and heart. And this is what we fail to understand most of the times.We blame the heart to be an emotional fool and ourselves get trapped.

Thus while having an eye-candy or a crush is undoubtedly healthy but getting senti and losing it all..is not only injurious..it is Fatal!

So you need to be really careful..

And to all the members of the PHA Association, here's a word from your agony aunt:

While she makes her way to your heart..make sure you don't have to struggle later,in finding the way out!!.(wink)  







Ps:  PHA stands for Pite Hue Aashiq.
  

How SOMEBODY ceases to exist!!

How abruptly do situations change
How people become strange
How SOMEBODY you had a fetish for
Is nowhere in the range

How you thought SOMEBODY was just like you
And now their perceptions lie miles apart
How SOMEBODY who was to be there for entire life
Is no longer a part

How meeting SOMEBODY was so important that you just couldnot resist
Things have turned around soo bitterly
That SOMEBODY now ceases to exist...

पतझड़ का वो गिरता पत्ता.......

पतझड़ का वो गिरता पत्ता
समेटे  था  अपने  भीतर अनगिनत दस्ताने
स्मृति  पटल पर  देख  रहा  था
गुजरे पलों की गाथाएँ

याद  आ  रहा  था  वो  क्षण  उसको
जिस  क्षण  उसका  सृजन  हुआ
हरा -भरा  सा  रंग  था उसका
अनेकों संभावनाएं  समेटा  हुआ

नई  उम्मीद  थी,नया  सफर था
नया  जोश  था  उसमे भरा
नयी  सोंच संग प्रकृति  की
गोद में  पलता रहा

माघ की कपकपाती ठंड भी झेली थी  उसने
जेठ  की गर्मी  में भी था तपा
संघर्ष  ने जब व्याकुल किया था
सावन  की ओट में था जा छुपा

उन दिनों को याद करके
आज था वो उदास सा

हरा रंग पीला हुआ
अब हो चुका था भूरा
नन्ही कोपल का नवजात शिशु
अब हो चूका था बूढा

यू तो गिर रहा था ज़मीन पर
फ़िर भी एक अज़ीब सी चमक थी उसकी आँखो में
शायद कहना चाह रहा था :
नन्ही कोपल फिर जन्मेगी

अबकी बार......   मेरी  साँसों  में.......

     अबकी बार......   मेरी  साँसों  में.......

FINDING YOURSELF

Research shows that most of the times we people are busy finding a nice company…We keep searching  for our Bosom Buddies and Soul Sisters; people to whom we can speak our heart out, with whom we laugh our lungs out, to whom we can blabber shit  and enjoy till our heart drips..

Most of the times we are creepy about the lives of others (for whatsoever ‘out of the box’ logics we have).These ‘others’ may be your CRUSH, some friend ,the person you look up to or some Sharmaji-Vermaji kind of neighbours. We are more interested in knowing what is going on in ‘their’ lives,.. what is ‘their’ RELaTIONShip Status, what car ‘they’ brought or simply ‘their’ flair of interests…

 Most of the times we are busy finding faults in others,pointing out their fallies and proving them wrong. Afterall we are humans…Transcending others is ‘quite’ a feeling for us.

Most of the times we are busy scrutinizing what others have and we don’t…we feel his/her life is a complete bliss and mine…A TOTAL MESS!!!!!

So while we spend “MOST ” of our time over such petty things,lets do something pertinent “for a change”…something that is really worth our time; that is: FINDING ourself, believing in ourself, being with ourself….

You might find the best of friends on earth with whom you might share the deepest of your secrets,,,But believe you me,the best person to be around ;in this whole universe is YOU…

                 Feel the essence in you…feel your fragrance…feel your beauty..Give yourself a placebo of happiness…

In this fast paced world you undoubtedly “have” to compete and excel.. but don’t ever allow this competitiveness take over your life..Emulating YOURSELF would be an excellent idea though…Try being a better YOU everyday. Remember the Classmate ad: “ Aspire to be the first YOU rather than being the next somebody”.

I know everybody cannot be a wunderkind but all of us ‘can’ be a Phoenix bird…Learn to rise from your mistakes. Here’s a simple test: If YOU know your mental , emotional ,scientific ,intellectual (or whatever such quotient exists)..you are on the right path.Give yourself a ‘High Five’ and keep marching ahead..But Just in case you don’t…What are you waiting for? Spend time with YOURSELF..Discover the enigma in YOU…Take YOURSELF on a date, treat YOURself special and do everything and anything that makes YOU and YOUR soul happy,without caring about what the world thinks of it…It is YOUR life and you are not here to give any explainations whatsoever…

And tell all those paranoids,sadists and pessimists out there that they are not the last ones to be left on earth amidst some wild beasts…So RELAX..Take a deep breath,Stay CALM and stop being cynical..for God doesnot attain any pleasure in pinging you…

Your life might not be impeccable..but it is definitely “THE MOST”amazing and beautiful with all its imperfections…You know why? Because of the simple fact that it has YOU in it…and YOU are AWESOMEee ..

So Rise up!! Garner yourself..Be audacious!! And Resurge to conquer this world…

DISCLAIMER: MY NAME IS AISHWARYA AND I AM ‘NOT’ SELF OBSESSED….

                                (but definitely on the way to becoming pragmatically SELF concerned…)